Before we married, my wife complained of a co-worker of mine who would say "smile--you oughta smile more" to women, including her and at least one woman who rep

Before we married, my wife complained of a co-worker of mine who would say "smile--you oughta smile more" to women, including her and at least one woman who reported to her. So I don't doubt at all that women get a lot of that. As for your edit, I don't think that it is politically incorrect to speak of your own experience, and I can hardly imagine a forum less hostile to that message than HN.