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I won't repeat what the sibling commenter has stated except to say that I agree that these authors seem to have missed the point. Anecdotally, my partner and I

by radlad 2y ago

I won't repeat what the sibling commenter has stated except to say that I agree that these authors seem to have missed the point. Anecdotally, my partner and I have found a ton of value in it within our relationship.

FollowingTheDao 2y ago
"Serenity now, insanity later." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJVIX-4OyT0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJVIX-4OyT0
- sethammons 2y ago
  in my quest to better understand your position, I once again believe you missed the point. I think you are suggesting that NVC is artificial and smooths over chaos that needs to be experienced else things go worse later. NVC is expressly about not repressing your feelings and letting them be known via your unmet needs. Again, if I got this wrong, you are invited to correct me. Mostly I'm just bored between meetings and not enough time to push anything productive forward and having a back and forth is pleasantly distracting. Might not reply again since work is nearly beckoning.
- radlad 2y ago
  Well, it's been helpful to us for a few years. Unlike in the Seinfeld episode, NVC isn't about "bottling up" or keeping your emotions to yourself. It is explicitly the opposite: all about communicating unmet needs and finding shared understanding. I think both of us would say that we feel we have a better understanding of each other and a much stronger relationship as a result of NVC. YMMV of course!