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Thus Q -> dandiness makes Transactional Analysis compleatly dandy then? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis#Outline https://en.wikipedia.org/w

Thus Q -> dandiness makes Transactional Analysis compleatly dandy then? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis#Outline https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis#Outline

aebtebeten 2y ago
If "I'm OK, You're OK" leads to a generation[0] who ...are grown-up children, utterly irresponsible; not immoral but unmoral; they “please to live and live to please” themselves. They do not realise that their actions may prove costly to others and therefore do not count the cost. They are children of impulse not of calculation. [1] then TA would be completely dandy, but I kind of thought the initial ideal, at least, was that people would attempt to stay in A<->A Straight Talk modes. Should we judge Transactional Analysis by what Berne wrote (TA as antimeme), or by what everyone read or claimed to have read (TA as meme)? "...your real dandy is not an ordinary man and must not be judged by common standards. He stands outside and above the ordinary rules of life and conduct; he has not any conscience, and questions of morality do not affect him. All that is for us to do in viewing such a one as D’Orsay is to weigh his physical and mental gifts, and to examine the uses to which he put them, to look to the opportunities which were given to him and the advantage which he took of them." [1] Dandyism as sociopathy? It certainly has a pocketbook-dependent valence: poor dandies are trashy; rich ones, classy. > I don't play accurately —any one can play accurately— but I play with wonderful expression. —AM [0] cf the Xenophobe's Guide to the Americans, which claims this behaviour wasn't just the 1970s, it's the national character. [1] https://www.gutenberg.org/files/56581/56581-h/56581-h.htm https://www.gutenberg.org/files/56581/56581-h/56581-h.htm EDIT: I prefer https://www.gutenberg.org/files/56581/56581-h/images/illus5.jpg https://www.gutenberg.org/files/56581/56581-h/images/illus5.... (who needs a marshall's baton when you have a hunting crop?), but have to admit D'O---y may even have inspired a predecessor of our age's bobbleheads: https://www.nationaltrustcollections.org.uk/object/1221047 https://www.nationaltrustcollections.org.uk/object/1221047
- gradschoolfail 2y ago
  Okay, i interpreted your previous writing on TA to mean that TA-guided attempts to stay in ST mode would still be unstable towards insanity. as a contrived example to argue that point, the advantage has been adapted into YC’s metric for equity transferees. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=9239203 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=9239203 In order to keep things simple, lets forget abt memes, because i’m more interested in the failure modes of Straight Talk no BS OG TA.
  - 082349872349872 2y ago
    while I (attempt to) reread Berne, here's a possibly interesting Victorian trichotomy (probably in different terms than I give here): attributes - things you were born with accomplishments - things you have via practice (paid the time) acquisitions - things you have via purchase (paid the cash) [and I'm calling Altman's anecdote weak sauce; I agree it's hustle not hack. Lagniappe: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c412hqucHKw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c412hqucHKw ] EDIT: showing up on the client's doorstep has been done by salescritters since the day after commission was invented. A hack involves exploiting a property of a system that no one had previously realised exploitable. (Note here that despite popular usage, I only consider most computer crackers to be airquote "hackers".)
  - 082349872349872 2y ago
    The failure mode of Straight Talk OG TA (according to Berne) is that it's not a universal sol'n (at best a Kolmogorov Option?): > The somber picture presented in Parts I and II of this book, in which human life is mainly a process of filling in time until the arrival of death, or Santa Claus, with very little choice, if any, of what kind of business one is going to transact during the long wait, is a commonplace but not the final answer. For certain fortunate people there is something which transcends all classifications of behavior, and that is awareness; something which rises above the programming of the past, and that is spontaneity; and something that is more rewarding than games, and that is intimacy. But all three of these may be frightening and even perilous to the unprepared. Perhaps they are better off as they are, seeking their solutions in popular techniques of social action, such as "togetherness." This may mean that there is no hope for the human race, but there is hope for individual members of it. (IIUC after hearing "all three of these may be frightening and even perilous to the unprepared", Michael Scott would be likely to retort "that's what she said")

Thus Q -> dandiness makes Transactional Analysis compleatly dandy then? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis#Outline https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis#Outline

aebtebeten 2y ago

If "I'm OK, You're OK" leads to a generation[0] who ...are grown-up children, utterly irresponsible; not immoral but unmoral; they “please to live and live to please” themselves. They do not realise that their actions may prove costly to others and therefore do not count the cost. They are children of impulse not of calculation. [1] then TA would be completely dandy, but I kind of thought the initial ideal, at least, was that people would attempt to stay in A<->A Straight Talk modes. Should we judge Transactional Analysis by what Berne wrote (TA as antimeme), or by what everyone read or claimed to have read (TA as meme)? "...your real dandy is not an ordinary man and must not be judged by common standards. He stands outside and above the ordinary rules of life and conduct; he has not any conscience, and questions of morality do not affect him. All that is for us to do in viewing such a one as D’Orsay is to weigh his physical and mental gifts, and to examine the uses to which he put them, to look to the opportunities which were given to him and the advantage which he took of them." [1] Dandyism as sociopathy? It certainly has a pocketbook-dependent valence: poor dandies are trashy; rich ones, classy. > I don't play accurately —any one can play accurately— but I play with wonderful expression. —AM [0] cf the Xenophobe's Guide to the Americans, which claims this behaviour wasn't just the 1970s, it's the national character. [1] https://www.gutenberg.org/files/56581/56581-h/56581-h.htm https://www.gutenberg.org/files/56581/56581-h/56581-h.htm EDIT: I prefer https://www.gutenberg.org/files/56581/56581-h/images/illus5.jpg https://www.gutenberg.org/files/56581/56581-h/images/illus5.... (who needs a marshall's baton when you have a hunting crop?), but have to admit D'O---y may even have inspired a predecessor of our age's bobbleheads: https://www.nationaltrustcollections.org.uk/object/1221047 https://www.nationaltrustcollections.org.uk/object/1221047

gradschoolfail 2y ago
Okay, i interpreted your previous writing on TA to mean that TA-guided attempts to stay in ST mode would still be unstable towards insanity. as a contrived example to argue that point, the advantage has been adapted into YC’s metric for equity transferees. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=9239203 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=9239203 In order to keep things simple, lets forget abt memes, because i’m more interested in the failure modes of Straight Talk no BS OG TA.
- 082349872349872 2y ago
  while I (attempt to) reread Berne, here's a possibly interesting Victorian trichotomy (probably in different terms than I give here): attributes - things you were born with accomplishments - things you have via practice (paid the time) acquisitions - things you have via purchase (paid the cash) [and I'm calling Altman's anecdote weak sauce; I agree it's hustle not hack. Lagniappe: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c412hqucHKw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c412hqucHKw ] EDIT: showing up on the client's doorstep has been done by salescritters since the day after commission was invented. A hack involves exploiting a property of a system that no one had previously realised exploitable. (Note here that despite popular usage, I only consider most computer crackers to be airquote "hackers".)
- 082349872349872 2y ago
  The failure mode of Straight Talk OG TA (according to Berne) is that it's not a universal sol'n (at best a Kolmogorov Option?): > The somber picture presented in Parts I and II of this book, in which human life is mainly a process of filling in time until the arrival of death, or Santa Claus, with very little choice, if any, of what kind of business one is going to transact during the long wait, is a commonplace but not the final answer. For certain fortunate people there is something which transcends all classifications of behavior, and that is awareness; something which rises above the programming of the past, and that is spontaneity; and something that is more rewarding than games, and that is intimacy. But all three of these may be frightening and even perilous to the unprepared. Perhaps they are better off as they are, seeking their solutions in popular techniques of social action, such as "togetherness." This may mean that there is no hope for the human race, but there is hope for individual members of it. (IIUC after hearing "all three of these may be frightening and even perilous to the unprepared", Michael Scott would be likely to retort "that's what she said")