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These could be fair opportunities to rightfully sue the hospital for emotional harassment and more. If you don't sue the hospital, nothing will change.

ipython 2y ago
My wife was almost killed due to a botched surgery (for cancer). She felt bad for weeks afterward - and every time we returned, we were told she "just needed more time". So I finally admitted her to the ER where they declared she was in septic shock. I inquired about suing (to some attorneys who specialize in this sort of thing) and was basically told that there was little chance of any recovery, and it would be a large burden on us to literally re-litigate the entire traumatic event. So we passed.
- OutOfHere 2y ago
  The trick is to settle out of court before the full case plays out in court. If they choose not to settle, you still don't have to continue with the case if you don't want to.
  - ipython 2y ago
    This sounds like something the attorneys would have suggested if they thought it was worth the time. I don't mean to be snippy, but have you done this? It's easy to make this comment online- it's a whole other thing to actually go through with it on top of all your other life stressors and reliving the trauma. I would welcome your story, so I can learn on how best to approach if there is ever a next time.
    - OutOfHere 2y ago
      Btw, even if there is no "recovery", the doctor's insurance will still shoot up due to the judgment against the doctor, which can be a desirable outcome. If good men do nothing, the same doctor will kill someone the next time. As a motivating example, please lookup "Florida surgeon removes man’s liver instead of his spleen, causing his death". This doctor had been injuring people for a while, nothing was done, and finally he killed someone. Frankly, it seems that the attorneys you spoke to were not the right ones for the task. The thing about trauma is that you're already reliving it. You came here to share the story which is proof of this. I understand though that life can be burdensome as it is, with no time for a difficult lawsuit.
dzhiurgis 2y ago
In all honestly this looks more like swiss-cheese issue than systematic problem. Post-op vagina pics is quite funny one, but I can see not working at that moment.
- falcolas 2y ago
  Yes, a photo of an unnaturally tightened vagina, giving the wife discomfort or outright pain during sex going forward in an effort to "make the vagina tighter for the husband", sounds fucking hilarious. Especially since they very rarely ask if they can do it, and if they do, they ask the husband. It's surprisingly barbaric in this day and age.
  - throwaway48540 2y ago
    Holy shit, what? Do you have anything I can read about this?
    - noodlesUK 2y ago
      Not parent - I don’t know anyone who’s been a victim of it, but here’s some reading. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Husband_stitch https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Husband_stitch
      - falcolas 2y ago
        This is indeed what I was referring to. And while it's not super common, there's a number of women who self report getting them on social media. Of course, social media is social media, but as noted in the wiki article, it's definitely still a thing. With luck and enough sunlight as disinfectant, it will go away with the last of the doctors trained in the 50's, 60's and 70's.
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ipython 2y ago

My wife was almost killed due to a botched surgery (for cancer). She felt bad for weeks afterward - and every time we returned, we were told she "just needed more time". So I finally admitted her to the ER where they declared she was in septic shock. I inquired about suing (to some attorneys who specialize in this sort of thing) and was basically told that there was little chance of any recovery, and it would be a large burden on us to literally re-litigate the entire traumatic event. So we passed.

OutOfHere 2y ago
The trick is to settle out of court before the full case plays out in court. If they choose not to settle, you still don't have to continue with the case if you don't want to.
- ipython 2y ago
  This sounds like something the attorneys would have suggested if they thought it was worth the time. I don't mean to be snippy, but have you done this? It's easy to make this comment online- it's a whole other thing to actually go through with it on top of all your other life stressors and reliving the trauma. I would welcome your story, so I can learn on how best to approach if there is ever a next time.
  - OutOfHere 2y ago
    Btw, even if there is no "recovery", the doctor's insurance will still shoot up due to the judgment against the doctor, which can be a desirable outcome. If good men do nothing, the same doctor will kill someone the next time. As a motivating example, please lookup "Florida surgeon removes man’s liver instead of his spleen, causing his death". This doctor had been injuring people for a while, nothing was done, and finally he killed someone. Frankly, it seems that the attorneys you spoke to were not the right ones for the task. The thing about trauma is that you're already reliving it. You came here to share the story which is proof of this. I understand though that life can be burdensome as it is, with no time for a difficult lawsuit.

dzhiurgis 2y ago

In all honestly this looks more like swiss-cheese issue than systematic problem. Post-op vagina pics is quite funny one, but I can see not working at that moment.

falcolas 2y ago
Yes, a photo of an unnaturally tightened vagina, giving the wife discomfort or outright pain during sex going forward in an effort to "make the vagina tighter for the husband", sounds fucking hilarious. Especially since they very rarely ask if they can do it, and if they do, they ask the husband. It's surprisingly barbaric in this day and age.
- throwaway48540 2y ago
  Holy shit, what? Do you have anything I can read about this?
  - noodlesUK 2y ago
    Not parent - I don’t know anyone who’s been a victim of it, but here’s some reading. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Husband_stitch https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Husband_stitch
    - falcolas 2y ago
      This is indeed what I was referring to. And while it's not super common, there's a number of women who self report getting them on social media. Of course, social media is social media, but as noted in the wiki article, it's definitely still a thing. With luck and enough sunlight as disinfectant, it will go away with the last of the doctors trained in the 50's, 60's and 70's.
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