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especially good when that common activity isn't: we're both drinking at this bar

sublinear 2y ago
Easiest way to meet someone is for them to be a friend of a friend. I rarely date someone outside my extended circle even if I was trying to. We inevitably happen to know someone in common. That said, bars are a great way to expand that circle. Dating is just one aspect of socializing. People who go to bars specifically just to "pick up" are creepy.
- tasuki 2y ago
  > People who go to bars specifically just to "pick up" are creepy. What does that mean?
  - ethbr1 2y ago
    That a lot of people go to bars to hang out with their friends, or especially hang out with their friends + meet some new friends of friends. And it's kind of weird to just go to a bar, alone, and try and find other lonely people to fuck for a single night. But hey, that's what some people are looking for.
    - 2-3-7-43-1807 2y ago
      I'd argue this isn't weird but anthropologically speaking the norm. This being considered "weird" in and off itself is more like a very recent social development.
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    - nox101 2y ago
      you gotta love this idea that you're a creep if you're alone. Only show up if you already have friends. So if you have no friends there's no way to get any because you're a creep if you're alone we need a new woke meme to shame people who shit on people who don't have friends
      - NeoTar 2y ago
        There’s a difference between going to a bar alone, and going alone with the sole intention to find a one-night-stand. It’s the latter people find creepy.
        Teever 2y ago
        Where do you think people should go to find a one night stand?
        maximus-decimus 2y ago
        They just think actively looking for one night stands is creepy, so the answer is nowhere.
- nox101 2y ago
  > Easiest way to meet someone is for them to be a friend of a friend That assumes your friends have friends to introduce you too. Mine almost never have.
- oh-look-fu 2y ago
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Easiest way to meet someone is for them to be a friend of a friend. I rarely date someone outside my extended circle even if I was trying to. We inevitably happen to know someone in common. That said, bars are a great way to expand that circle. Dating is just one aspect of socializing. People who go to bars specifically just to "pick up" are creepy.

tasuki 2y ago
> People who go to bars specifically just to "pick up" are creepy. What does that mean?
- ethbr1 2y ago
  That a lot of people go to bars to hang out with their friends, or especially hang out with their friends + meet some new friends of friends. And it's kind of weird to just go to a bar, alone, and try and find other lonely people to fuck for a single night. But hey, that's what some people are looking for.
  - 2-3-7-43-1807 2y ago
    I'd argue this isn't weird but anthropologically speaking the norm. This being considered "weird" in and off itself is more like a very recent social development.
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  - nox101 2y ago
    you gotta love this idea that you're a creep if you're alone. Only show up if you already have friends. So if you have no friends there's no way to get any because you're a creep if you're alone we need a new woke meme to shame people who shit on people who don't have friends
    - NeoTar 2y ago
      There’s a difference between going to a bar alone, and going alone with the sole intention to find a one-night-stand. It’s the latter people find creepy.
      - Teever 2y ago
        Where do you think people should go to find a one night stand?
        maximus-decimus 2y ago
        They just think actively looking for one night stands is creepy, so the answer is nowhere.
nox101 2y ago
> Easiest way to meet someone is for them to be a friend of a friend That assumes your friends have friends to introduce you too. Mine almost never have.
oh-look-fu 2y ago
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