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Nobody talks like this, it's super awkward Real interaction is about living in the moment and reading the room This is a nerd solution to a nerd problem

ethbr1 2y ago
It's not unheard of that sometimes nerds have difficulty becoming friends with other nerds. Everybody deserves a shot at friendship: hope this works for some people!
- calmbonsai 2y ago
  This will work for nobody and have the exact opposite of the well-intended effect. Have you tried it?! Have you been exposed to German culture?
  - ethbr1 2y ago
    Sie müssen nicht einsam sein, bei NurDeutsch.de!
- parpfish 2y ago
  A related issue happened when a very introverted friend wanted to find other quiet bookish friends and would scoff at trying to befriend highly social people at a party. I had to explain that quiet people will very rarely find each other because they are quiet. You need that highly social person to mediate an introduction! They can introduce you to the other quiet people because knowing people is fun for them - social graphs form hub and spoke models because of people like this
layer8 2y ago
"What's the most bizarre or overly formal way someone has ever started a conversation with you, and how did you respond?" is close to a quine.
- nirui 2y ago
  My "theme" input: "we both at the bar". The output: "What's the most memorable or unusual conversation you've ever had with a stranger at a bar, and what made it stand out?". Like... this question itself? I'm feeling the creator of this project didn't spend much time on the prompt design. It's probably because Nodejs, React, Webpack and OpenAI API etc alone is already too much of a struggle to get right lol
  - Alex_No_Alex 2y ago
    That's a valid point for updated version of MVP. My experience showed me that it's doesn't matter where are you with the Meetup - bar or cafe or restaurant or park. Different types of people can be in any of these places. after "we both at the bar" - what were you expected to get? May be a set of questions around the bar or something else?
CoastalCoder 2y ago
> This is a nerd solution to a nerd problem Yeah, no shit. Some of us have a lot of trouble with making friends, and are happy for any assist we can get. "Reading the room" isn't something that everyone can do well.
- langitbiru 2y ago
  This "reading the room" problem... can we solve it with AI? I envision smart glasses with AR capabilities that can detect the vibe in a room and offer us advice.
ToniCipriani 2y ago
So this is real-life bluffball.co.uk... Did you see that ludicrous display last night?
smallnamespace 2y ago
> Nobody talks like this, it's super awkward Maybe people who communicate this way are his tribe. Birds of a feather, etc. Seen in this light, these questions would be a highly effective tool.
Alex_No_Alex 2y ago
I thought that way too. Until I found myself and see others just trying to "fill the gap in the air" with meaningful basic topics, that only makes the conversation weirder...basic topics are great for first 20min, then you just spend your energy for nothing. And for many people it's hard to find right question to boost the meaningful conversation. Having this questions in mind - is a great skill, that hard to get especially if you're not that social person, but want friends. Icebreaking question are not a 'silver bullet', but a mean to reflect on topic that energies you to talk and help you find your 'soul'.

ethbr1 2y ago

It's not unheard of that sometimes nerds have difficulty becoming friends with other nerds. Everybody deserves a shot at friendship: hope this works for some people!

calmbonsai 2y ago
This will work for nobody and have the exact opposite of the well-intended effect. Have you tried it?! Have you been exposed to German culture?
- ethbr1 2y ago
  Sie müssen nicht einsam sein, bei NurDeutsch.de!
parpfish 2y ago
A related issue happened when a very introverted friend wanted to find other quiet bookish friends and would scoff at trying to befriend highly social people at a party. I had to explain that quiet people will very rarely find each other because they are quiet. You need that highly social person to mediate an introduction! They can introduce you to the other quiet people because knowing people is fun for them - social graphs form hub and spoke models because of people like this

layer8 2y ago

"What's the most bizarre or overly formal way someone has ever started a conversation with you, and how did you respond?" is close to a quine.

nirui 2y ago
My "theme" input: "we both at the bar". The output: "What's the most memorable or unusual conversation you've ever had with a stranger at a bar, and what made it stand out?". Like... this question itself? I'm feeling the creator of this project didn't spend much time on the prompt design. It's probably because Nodejs, React, Webpack and OpenAI API etc alone is already too much of a struggle to get right lol
- Alex_No_Alex 2y ago
  That's a valid point for updated version of MVP. My experience showed me that it's doesn't matter where are you with the Meetup - bar or cafe or restaurant or park. Different types of people can be in any of these places. after "we both at the bar" - what were you expected to get? May be a set of questions around the bar or something else?

CoastalCoder 2y ago

> This is a nerd solution to a nerd problem Yeah, no shit. Some of us have a lot of trouble with making friends, and are happy for any assist we can get. "Reading the room" isn't something that everyone can do well.

langitbiru 2y ago
This "reading the room" problem... can we solve it with AI? I envision smart glasses with AR capabilities that can detect the vibe in a room and offer us advice.

ToniCipriani 2y ago

So this is real-life bluffball.co.uk... Did you see that ludicrous display last night?

smallnamespace 2y ago

> Nobody talks like this, it's super awkward Maybe people who communicate this way are his tribe. Birds of a feather, etc. Seen in this light, these questions would be a highly effective tool.

Alex_No_Alex 2y ago

I thought that way too. Until I found myself and see others just trying to "fill the gap in the air" with meaningful basic topics, that only makes the conversation weirder...basic topics are great for first 20min, then you just spend your energy for nothing. And for many people it's hard to find right question to boost the meaningful conversation. Having this questions in mind - is a great skill, that hard to get especially if you're not that social person, but want friends. Icebreaking question are not a 'silver bullet', but a mean to reflect on topic that energies you to talk and help you find your 'soul'.