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>the latter would make me very uncomfortable Genuine question, but why would this make you feel uncomfortable? >needs to be handled with extreme tact and cons
by bumby 2y ago
>the latter would make me very uncomfortable
Genuine question, but why would this make you feel uncomfortable?
>needs to be handled with extreme tact and consideration.
Did you think they acted without tact? By the authors own account, they seemed very polite and even sent a follow-up email. The founders account of the interaction made it seem even more polite (asking her if she needed help, offering to hold the baby, offering other areas where she could still hear the talk but not be as much of a distraction etc.)
- em-bee 2y agobeing asked to leave implies that i am either oblivious towards the disruption my kids cause, or that i simply misjudge the situation and thought my kids are not as disruptive as the person asking me felt about it. both imply a judgement of my behavior, and that alone will make me uncomfortable. i do admit that i am biased by my experience in china where something like that would never happen as i explain here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=41438834 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=41438834 not having experienced the situation i can't judge, but the fact that it prompted the person to write an article about it to me suggests that on some level it did make her feel uncomfortable. if it hadn't it wouldn't have been worth mentioning.
- bumby 2y agoSure. After reading both accounts, it came across to me that the founder with the baby was being overly sensitive and chose to steer into the least favorable interpretation. We should strive to be polite but we shouldn't avoid confrontation just because someone may take it the wrong way, especially when doing so comes at the detriment of other people's experiences.
- em-bee 2y agohaving read the response now too, i have to agree