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Depends on a lot. I used to argue about how to raise kids. She always won and I gave up having any say. I had a few siblings and many younger cousins that I wat
by datavirtue 2y ago
Depends on a lot. I used to argue about how to raise kids. She always won and I gave up having any say. I had a few siblings and many younger cousins that I watched very often and had been trained on how to raise kids by older people in my "village." I was confident and had a lot of tools under my belt. She floundered and insisted on going with her gut reaction on everything. Zero siblings, cousins, experience or training.
Twenty years later she is having breakdowns about the kids sitting around the house fucking off and pissing their life away. Not helping with shit unless harassed. Ignoring her every word.
She pleads with me for help, and I just shrug and say: "What are you going to do honey? It is what it is." I tried to prevent this.
Then I go on with my life and prioritize my own enjoyment. All I ever wanted to do was give them serious responsibilies around the home, but she always rebuffed it. Now it's too late.
You can't tell anyone anything.
- vhiremath4 2y agoI’m very sorry to hear that things have led down this path. I hope for nothing but the best for you, her, and your kids. Do you feel like, if you could go back, you would rather end things knowing there were this large of disagreements on the fundamentals of how you would raise your kids? Or did you guys not fully broach these topics before getting married? Obviously, no pressure to answer here. These are sensitive questions to answer and put out on the internet.
- datavirtue 2y agoHa ha, it just is what it is. I chose not to strangle her twenty years ago. Things are good. I really don't understand how people think they can engineer themselves into some type of perfect relationship. You could easily end up miserable either way. My wife has so many good qualities. Everyone loves her and she is obsessed with me.