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> What if your daughter stopped loving you, and cut you out of her life? Is she free to do so? Age permitting, of course she is. One would have to be a tyrant
by danenania 2y ago
> What if your daughter stopped loving you, and cut you out of her life? Is she free to do so?
Age permitting, of course she is. One would have to be a tyrant to think otherwise imo.
- AStonesThrow 2y agoI mean, perhaps a kid's free to reject their parents, but would their parents be wrong to experience that as trauma and injustice? Would you begin to consider what you've done to lose her, and take steps to reunite? If you love her daughter and give her a free choice, and she abandons you, what went wrong? Parenthood went according to plan? Can a child be raised to feel no responsibility or commitment to the parents, and just withdraw that love when it's difficult or inconvenient? I love my baseball team when they're winning, but I don't move out of state when they had a bad season.
- danenania 2y agoThe parents can experience it however they experience it. That doesn't give them the right to compel another adult human to do anything against their will. Children don't abandon their parents on a whim. That's not how humans work. If it happens, it's a sign of extreme desperation. It means the decision itself is the tip of the iceberg and the relationship has been severely dysfunctional for years. Ironically, the kind of parent who would try to force their child to love them or keep in contact with them against the child's will is astronomically more likely to have this problem in the first place. While I can't see the future, it's almost impossible for me to imagine this happening with my daughter. We have a very close relationship to begin with, and I plan to love and support her unconditionally no matter what choices she makes in her life.