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The cost of homes and renting a home have seemed to go up disproportionate to wages. However, I know young couples who have purchased small homes. And I wonder

The cost of homes and renting a home have seemed to go up disproportionate to wages. However, I know young couples who have purchased small homes. And I wondered why or how it differs from couples who haven’t or say they can’t. One observation I’ve made is that the people who haven’t also follow a pattern of delaying getting married and having kids. Instead opting to have a more vibrant night life and consuming a lot more social media with the time granted by not having children. I thought, perhaps the driving factor to prioritize owning a home has gone missing. Especially once you have a kid, owning vs renting becomes a lot more important for reasons such as stability and setting down roots for their school. I think the younger couples I know who have started families and purchased a home may have simply prioritized it - they don’t say it was easy but it’s obviously possible.

rgreeko420 2y ago
Getting married and having children is expensive. If you have the money to do those things, you are more likely to be someone who can also afford a home sooner than others. It's not a matter of widespread personal preference, that's ridiculous.
- SvenL 2y ago
  Not only that, they may have also a social support net like their parents near by. This can help a lot - also financially.
  - jmathai 2y ago
    Honestly, this sounds like the sound bites I’ve seen on social media. Getting married is definitely not expensive. In Ohio it costs $30-$70. And you can have an affordable reception. If you’re talking about a reception you can’t afford - sure. But that’s your own decision. And if that’s your reason to not get married then that I can see how that line of thinking extends to “I can’t afford to buy a house”. I have 4 kids. They aren’t free but they are totally affordable. I’m really not sure what you are saying - the vast majority of 35+ year olds DO have kids and afford it.

rgreeko420 2y ago

Getting married and having children is expensive. If you have the money to do those things, you are more likely to be someone who can also afford a home sooner than others. It's not a matter of widespread personal preference, that's ridiculous.

SvenL 2y ago
Not only that, they may have also a social support net like their parents near by. This can help a lot - also financially.
- jmathai 2y ago
  Honestly, this sounds like the sound bites I’ve seen on social media. Getting married is definitely not expensive. In Ohio it costs $30-$70. And you can have an affordable reception. If you’re talking about a reception you can’t afford - sure. But that’s your own decision. And if that’s your reason to not get married then that I can see how that line of thinking extends to “I can’t afford to buy a house”. I have 4 kids. They aren’t free but they are totally affordable. I’m really not sure what you are saying - the vast majority of 35+ year olds DO have kids and afford it.