I'm not talking about the 1800s. I'm talking about the 1920s-1970s A three-day bus journey for a gay man moving to San Francisco or New York is not a big ask.

I'm not talking about the 1800s. I'm talking about the 1920s-1970s A three-day bus journey for a gay man moving to San Francisco or New York is not a big ask. But his parents aren't going to come visit or expect him to go back for Thanksgiving each year.