The false confusion is what gets me when it comes to this topic. If your position towards another person is "I expect the following of you", that person doesn

The false confusion is what gets me when it comes to this topic. If your position towards another person is "I expect the following of you", that person doesn't agree with those expectations and in fact finds them intolerable, and then in response to this disagreement you just double down every time and state your expectations more forcefully, what do you think is going to happen? You leave them only one choice to remove this ongoing source of pain from their lives - to remove you from it. As is alluded to in this article, the central theme here is narcissism. Narcissists can't legitimise the concept of compromise in their heads, because compromising would involve an acceptance that they were wrong. A narcissist will literally die before they will do such a thing. The vast majority of energy spent on this topic is completely wasted. When there is a psychological impossibility of one or more parties to the conflict from compromising and changing their minds and attitudes, all this stuff is just pointless bickering and reopening old wounds, that helps no one. The central problem is that narcissism is effectively incurable. Changing this is where efforts should be focused, just like we focus efforts on curing other currently incurable ailments.