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and then when they search in Linkedin or Facebook and your name pops up? Thats my point. You have to actively block or hide from them and/or explicitly tell th
by slyall 2y ago
and then when they search in Linkedin or Facebook and your name pops up?
Thats my point. You have to actively block or hide from them and/or explicitly tell them no contact.
In the past you didn't have to actively hide because even if they knew where you lived and your phone number it was too expensive to do anything other than send the odd letter.
- jalapenos 2y agoThe "too" is the point here. Yes in the past their would be less avenues for them to get back in contact if you went away, but that going away would be much more expensive for you too. E.g. in the past, people frequently died during such journeys. So costs were high for both parties. So given that the costs of breaching the boundaries is lower, but so is the cost of making them, the solution is still just building them higher until it's infeasible to breach them.
- slyall 2y agoI'm not talking about the 1800s. I'm talking about the 1920s-1970s A three-day bus journey for a gay man moving to San Francisco or New York is not a big ask. But his parents aren't going to come visit or expect him to go back for Thanksgiving each year.