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spent the 1/2 half of the article reading about "Amy". Her story is sympathetic, but so also is her families'. Then we get the the abrupt turn: "One woman had
by fargle 2y ago
spent the 1/2 half of the article reading about "Amy". Her story is sympathetic, but so also is her families'.
Then we get the the abrupt turn: "One woman had spent much of her twenties coming to terms with sexual abuse from her father" and "Several described a family member as a classic narcissist or as toxic."
wait. wtf? are you comparing flat out sexual and mental abuse with "i'm liberal and my parents/siblings are super religious conservative"?
in the former case, sympathetic or not, you have selfishness and egos on both sides.
by the end of the article, "Amy" begins to appear to me to be about the most self-centered narcissist herself.
in the case of actual toxicity, abuse, etc. it's easy. short of that it would seem to be more a case of "it takes two to tango".
also, how many more parents reject/abandon their kids for similar or lessor reasons? plenty for sure. doesn't make that right either.
- jalapenos 2y agoI think this was the subtextual point of article: estrangement is the expected outcome when narcissism is involved (regardless of who's narcissism it is).
- fargle 2y agoagree with that. it's just interesting as the story expands to see in the Amy case, there's definitely two sides to that one. btw. too late to edit, but i think i mixed up 'former' and 'later' in my comment. anyhow the point there was i don't like the article spending soo much time on the Amy's of the world and equating and brushing off estrangement due to the real abuse. probably more common than anyone thinks.