You might not realize this on a conscious level, but the reason you're reluctant to tell your friends about your parents is because they'll assume you're a bad

You might not realize this on a conscious level, but the reason you're reluctant to tell your friends about your parents is because they'll assume you're a bad person too, due to how you inherited their codebase. If my parents were abusive, I'd want to hide that fact, similar to how I'd want to hide a past felony conviction for abuse. Because I believe people can change and deserve the opportunity to rise above their circumstances and make themselves into something better than where they came from. Having that opportunity is more important than the emotional catharsis of oversharing, wouldn't you agree?