If you don't see a difference in a thought process in your head that you can meta talk about online vs going to someone and telling them they are less-than or t

If you don't see a difference in a thought process in your head that you can meta talk about online vs going to someone and telling them they are less-than or to put them down in another way like not hiring them or something I'm not sure what to say. One is a thought process and a description of it, the other is an offense or something illegal.