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This is an incredibly male view of things. Why is assertiveness the better choice? Why should life be about elbowing your way through everything? Why do you hav
by jdbernard 14y ago
This is an incredibly male view of things. Why is assertiveness the better choice? Why should life be about elbowing your way through everything? Why do you have to be such a tough guy?
> you'll always stand on the side-lines and will forever be relegated to being a spectator.
Yeah, if the men are allowed to be in charge.
- Produce 14y agoI don't make the rules, it's just the way nature is. I think that a distinction must be drawn between being assertive and being abusive. Assertiveness is, in my opinion, nudging your way forward and reacting to people's objections by talking to them then taking their opinions into account and, if they lack assertiveness, representing their opinions. If someone else is also fighting for that spot, team up with them and work together. In contrast, abusiveness is nudging your way forward at the expense of peoples' well-being and not respecting others' right to assert themselves. In other words, it's the difference between fighting for yourself and fighting for everyone including yourself.