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Do you end up crying day after day, using drugs, dropping out of school, etc though? As loneliness does that to people. It is not that it is mildly painful for

Do you end up crying day after day, using drugs, dropping out of school, etc though? As loneliness does that to people. It is not that it is mildly painful for introverts to socialize when they do not want to, but rather that loneliness can be extremely painful.

FloorEgg 2y ago
In the most extreme acute situations I have broken down to tears purely from over-stimulation from socializing. Specifically when attending conferences for work. (I am an introvert). After a day of intense socializing I will go back to a hotel room and cry, while other people go to after parties. As far as depression, drugs, etc. I haven't been under this pressure chronically so I can't speak from personal experience. That said, I suspect that for introverts in even the most extreme chronic social pressures it would be more feasible for them to escape to some quiet place to recharge, than it would be for an extrovert who has no social connection living in isolation to find sufficient connection to recharge. In theory, it's far more practical to manifest solitude than it is to manifest a party.
steve1977 2y ago
Crying sometimes yes, also having sleep problems before social gatherings for example. Drugs no, although I did tend to numb myself during social interactions with alcohol (not drinking any alcohol anymore, but also have reduced social interactions). I‘m not saying loneliness cannot be terrible, don’t get me wrong. I guess involuntary anything can be terrible.
creata 2y ago
> Do you end up crying day after day, using drugs, dropping out of school, etc though? Two out of three, yes, as a direct result of a desire not to interact with others. While loneliness can be extremely painful, so too can anxiety.
- consteval 2y ago
  I think it can be a cycle. As in, the less you do something the more anxiety you have towards it. I think forcing yourself into uncomfortable situations and turning those into routine can help anxiety.

FloorEgg 2y ago

In the most extreme acute situations I have broken down to tears purely from over-stimulation from socializing. Specifically when attending conferences for work. (I am an introvert). After a day of intense socializing I will go back to a hotel room and cry, while other people go to after parties. As far as depression, drugs, etc. I haven't been under this pressure chronically so I can't speak from personal experience. That said, I suspect that for introverts in even the most extreme chronic social pressures it would be more feasible for them to escape to some quiet place to recharge, than it would be for an extrovert who has no social connection living in isolation to find sufficient connection to recharge. In theory, it's far more practical to manifest solitude than it is to manifest a party.

steve1977 2y ago

Crying sometimes yes, also having sleep problems before social gatherings for example. Drugs no, although I did tend to numb myself during social interactions with alcohol (not drinking any alcohol anymore, but also have reduced social interactions). I‘m not saying loneliness cannot be terrible, don’t get me wrong. I guess involuntary anything can be terrible.

creata 2y ago

> Do you end up crying day after day, using drugs, dropping out of school, etc though? Two out of three, yes, as a direct result of a desire not to interact with others. While loneliness can be extremely painful, so too can anxiety.

consteval 2y ago
I think it can be a cycle. As in, the less you do something the more anxiety you have towards it. I think forcing yourself into uncomfortable situations and turning those into routine can help anxiety.