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... but one wonders how often abusive relationships are simply better than available alternatives.
by spwa4 2y ago
... but one wonders how often abusive relationships are simply better than available alternatives.
- megous 2y agoeg.?
- Scaevolus 2y agoBeing homeless is the immediate alternative to many abusive situations.
- jajko 2y agoThats the more severe possibility, and I don't claim its not realistic. But from what I've seen so far, its more the fear of unknown and uncertainty. Fear of unknown can be very powerful, horror movies build mainly on this. Also cumulative hurt of staying, while being higher overall, is much less than single huge immediate dose of hurt received by running away, at least they project it this way. Put kids into the mix, and we have what we have.
- rendx 2y agoIf you were treated like shit when raised, you will believe being treated like shit later in life is something you need to accept. Or, the other way round: If you were raised to develop healthy boundaries, you will not end up in an abuse relationship later on in life.
- HideousKojima 2y agoSure, but there are also plenty of abusive situations where a friend or family member would be more than willing to take the abused person in (and the abused person knows this) and they still don't leave.
- GuB-42 2y agoWhich seems to be the basis for the Stockholm syndrome to happen. The abusive relationship has to appear better than the available alternatives. There may be a few instances where it is true, but in many cases, it isn't.
- snapcaster 2y agoThey often appear better to the victim (due to sunk costs, stockholm or whatever you want to call it, etc.). I don't think it's very common that they are better