> they think you're difficult to work with too. Can be a cultural thing. Here in the Netherlands, it's expected that you give honest feedback. In other culture

> they think you're difficult to work with too. Can be a cultural thing. Here in the Netherlands, it's expected that you give honest feedback. In other cultures Dutch people are known to be blunt or impolite because of this trait. In general you can ask beforehand; "Would you like some feedback on your proposal? I have some thoughts about it I'd like to share". > Thus opening the flood gates of all this non-sense. Am I misunderstanding you? It seems here you call suggestions and criticism non-sense. Where earlier you say that when you give suggestions and criticism, you hate it when it's viewed as non-sense. I'd say that if there is so much negativity regarding feedback, you need a process to structure it. This at the very least stops it from 'hanging in the air' all the time.