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I also never sexually assaulted anyone in college and neither did anyone in my friend group. And yet! There were lots of sexual assaults on campus. It's possibl

I also never sexually assaulted anyone in college and neither did anyone in my friend group. And yet! There were lots of sexual assaults on campus. It's possible for a small number of people to commit horrible acts without it requiring everyone to commit them or even see them happening. Turning a blind eye to this or other similar problems (like stalking or catcalling or racial profiling or discrimination) doesn't help change the world for the better. I'm glad you did the decent thing in college - some folks don't and the consequences for the victims are severe. I suggest we try, as a group, to ensure fewer and fewer sexual assaults happen like this and I think a critical part is recognizing that there are behavior patterns and statistics we can be informed by.

ziddoap 2y ago
I obviously must have written my original comment in a way that was easy to misinterpret, or people are just super focused on the throwaway portion of my comment at the end, not the middle, which is what I intended to be the important part. I was questioning the parent saying that the reality of putting 18-22 year olds together automatically equals sexual assault. As if the default behavior of 18-22 year olds is sexual assault. If we treat sexual assault as just the default behavior of 18-22 year olds, we are never going to address the problem. They basically are saying "boys will be boys", and I don't think that is okay. I never once thought, or wanted my comment to be interpreted as sexual assault not existing. I'm kind of flabbergasted that I have to say it that explicitly.