Read more carefully: > I'm now ignoring recruiters who are begging me to interview for insanely well-paying openings. I have a decently well-paying job with go

Read more carefully: > I'm now ignoring recruiters who are begging me to interview for insanely well-paying openings. I have a decently well-paying job with good work-life balance, and colleagues who respect me. So their utility function has terms other than $. So define "successful", or define the utility function more objectively. It is very clear that yours vs theirs are quite different.