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> But a brand-new house won’t fix your troubles any more than a fresh start with a fascinating new somebody will. With full-grown adults (ie 27-28+), there is
by sneak 2y ago
> But a brand-new house won’t fix your troubles any more than a fresh start with a fascinating new somebody will.
With full-grown adults (ie 27-28+), there is rarely such a thing as a fixer-upper. If you’re unhappy with your fully adult partner, cut and run. Life is short and opportunity cost is real. You are doing them and yourself no favors.
- throw4023042q0 2y agoI don't think it's necessarily so black and white. Both parties fell for something, if that's still there, maybe it can be found again. Maybe. If not, sure I agree with you. I don't think it's advisable to stay in an absolutely unhappy AND unfixable relationship. But I do think it's worth trying to fight for it. I'm in a 15 year long relationship, and it's not been smooth sailing. Some experiences require knowing each other very deeply. This is a very powerful experience IMO.
- Cthulhu_ 2y agoThat's a bit short-sighted; test whether they are open to change first. A lot of people in this thread are older people who went through therapy and life changing events (that is, change) after ten years, and saved relationships and the like. That said, "I can fix him/her" isn't a good way to enter a relationship.