It took me a long time to be able to be thankful that my partners didn't perpetually try to fix the structurally unsound relationships in either of my marriages

It took me a long time to be able to be thankful that my partners didn't perpetually try to fix the structurally unsound relationships in either of my marriages. I can put up with about anything, in a sense. I am grateful they could not. I spent about 20 years in those two relationships, and it wasn't until I got out that I realized how broken all that was.