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> It's probably not the app. Maybe. But then again, these apps are designed to extort single and desperate men, and keep them on the platform for as long as po
by imiric 2y ago
> It's probably not the app.
Maybe. But then again, these apps are designed to extort single and desperate men, and keep them on the platform for as long as possible.
Here's an example from Tinder. They allow you to buy tokens to "boost" your profile. While boosted, you get hundreds of likes in a couple of hours, whereas you usually get a few per week. How does that work exactly? Is your profile not attractive, or are they simply deciding to shadow ban it until you pay up?
Similarly for likes you send. Will the other person even see it? Who knows. But you have better chances they do if you pay for a "super" like.
These apps operate by keeping users in the dark, and giving them the least control over the experience as possible. This is why they have a swipe-based UI instead of allowing you to filter and search. They're borderline scams.
So a fairer app can indeed exist, though whether it could be as lucrative as current apps is debatable. So the incentives aren't there, besides someone who genuinely wants to help people. And this is not a primary goal of any company.
- vasco 2y agoI acknowledge all of that and despite this I know a lot of people that are together today or married that met in apps. When I watch comedy shows on YouTube and the comedian asks where people met, nowadays most people say apps. Apps are becoming the main way people meet so how can they "not work"? Plus they have this property of "not working" until once they do. So you spend a few years complaining but then you finally get into a happy relationship and aren't going to be posting a retraction raving about them, you'll just move on with your life and not think of dating apps again.