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>Online Dating. Is anyone having a good experience with this? >Third, make the app look like a CRM. >Now you are on to the qualify leads step. If you aren’t a

>Online Dating. Is anyone having a good experience with this? >Third, make the app look like a CRM. >Now you are on to the qualify leads step. If you aren’t agreeing on a time to meet in the first ten messages, this is a dead lead. What an incredibly ironic piece. Somehow I don't think any technical solution proposed here is going to improve online dating for people who think like this.

mgaunard 2y ago
If you don't think like this you can't possibly be successful on these apps. As a man in particular it's a numbers game and a huge time sink. Making it a CRM is just layering tools on top to make the process more efficient. I've heard even women do this, some have a spreadsheet with criteria they will validate during the first date.
- closewith 2y ago
  No, you're just wrong. I'm of average attractiveness, at best, and had no issue finding genuine matches that led to relationships, the last of which became my wife and love of my life. Never was there any analytics or numbers game required. I would go so far as to say that if you're matching with so many people without success that you need a spreadsheet, then the problem is internal and no technical solution will help you (which is also how I feel about the author of the linked deranged rant).
  - saulpw 2y ago
    How long ago was your dating experience?
    - closewith 2y ago
      2022.
  - mgaunard 2y ago
    I've used the apps extensively, and I know that it mostly led to meaningless short-term relationships, and that I only eventually found someone I genuinely connected with due to perseverance and luck. Also the author is not deranged, and it's inappropriate to insult someone because they have a different viewpoint from yours.
    - closewith 2y ago
      The content of this article is deranged. It's entirely appropriate to call it out as such.
- vasco 2y ago
  Funnily enough, the more developed the system the less likely it is to work, with survivorship bias.

mgaunard 2y ago

If you don't think like this you can't possibly be successful on these apps. As a man in particular it's a numbers game and a huge time sink. Making it a CRM is just layering tools on top to make the process more efficient. I've heard even women do this, some have a spreadsheet with criteria they will validate during the first date.

closewith 2y ago
No, you're just wrong. I'm of average attractiveness, at best, and had no issue finding genuine matches that led to relationships, the last of which became my wife and love of my life. Never was there any analytics or numbers game required. I would go so far as to say that if you're matching with so many people without success that you need a spreadsheet, then the problem is internal and no technical solution will help you (which is also how I feel about the author of the linked deranged rant).
- saulpw 2y ago
  How long ago was your dating experience?
  - closewith 2y ago
    2022.
- mgaunard 2y ago
  I've used the apps extensively, and I know that it mostly led to meaningless short-term relationships, and that I only eventually found someone I genuinely connected with due to perseverance and luck. Also the author is not deranged, and it's inappropriate to insult someone because they have a different viewpoint from yours.
  - closewith 2y ago
    The content of this article is deranged. It's entirely appropriate to call it out as such.
vasco 2y ago
Funnily enough, the more developed the system the less likely it is to work, with survivorship bias.