It's a great set of advice, with a small caveat - it's very easy to speak about fit and ignore long-term consequences & externalities. It really hit me when the

It's a great set of advice, with a small caveat - it's very easy to speak about fit and ignore long-term consequences & externalities. It really hit me when they talked about relationships - "A relationship is healthy if it fits the personalities and needs of the people involved" That is true-ish, but it's also true for e.g. codependent relationships. It doesn't really fit their needs, but when you're codependent, it's hard to see that it doesn't until it's really painful. This is true for other areas as well - the industry has quite a number of people who found a job that "fit" them, and which then proceeds to grind them into dust because they don't notice it doesn't quite fit. (See the always popular "I just want to farm" exit) The answer is kind-of buried in the article, but I wish it was called out more clearly. Yes, letting the context drive the fit is great, but it's crucial to have an unbiased set of eyes appraise the fit & the form. The most common incarnation of that is probably either therapist or priest, but many other professions essentially fulfill the same job - "tell me what you see, because I'm not sure I see it completely" It shines through in the article that the author did that, but if you're just embarking on this journey, it might help to hear it explicitly.