Thst is why I used metaphorical language here. Goals sound very well defined like something from a business plan. And granted, sometimes it is nice to have well

Thst is why I used metaphorical language here. Goals sound very well defined like something from a business plan. And granted, sometimes it is nice to have well defined goals, e.g. when you are in a group or some other situation where having a bit more objectively formulated expectations help. Life coaches would tell you you should not only formulate goals, but also say within which time you want to get there. As you I found this can kill all joy. A vague vision is sometimes better as it can be adjusted to life circumstances. E.g. if you're a musician of course your vision is to make good music of a certain style, but as you are one part of a band within a uncertain environment anything more precise than a vague "move the band forward" would need to be overhauled every other month. But for other