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Not really. That's a luxury.
by j0hnyl 2y ago
Not really. That's a luxury.
- ericd 2y agoWhy is this being downvoted? Do you all not know people whose kids are in the same room? Ours are. Someone we know has 4 kids in a 2 BR apartment, those kids are great.
- happytoexplain 2y agoNeither of the anecdotes you've provided imply that children having their own bedroom is a luxury. Only that the opposite does happen, and isn't necessarily bad for the children in every case. There is a wide space between those, and you should pay respect to the differences between different people. As for an explanation regarding the parent comment: Their use of the word "luxury" in this context antagonizes people by implying their standards are too high or they're spoiled or whatever, when really it's a perfectly reasonable thing to prioritize - and a perfectly reasonable thing not to prioritize. I.e. they have introduced team A vs team B negativity where it doesn't need to exist.
- whythre 2y agoIf you compare how humans have lived prior to this century, children having their own room is a recent development and indeed a luxury. Having your own private space is great, but not necessary. Hence, a luxury.
- j0hnyl 2y agoExactly what I meant.
- ericd 2y agoLuxury means "something expensive which is pleasant to have but is not really necessary". My anecdotes were trying to show that they're not really necessary, and the sibling comment further explained that individual bedrooms is a relatively recent phenomenon for the majority. It's fine to prioritize individual bedrooms if that's important to them for some reason, but it's important to keep a realistic view of things, too. When things become common, then people sometimes forget that the less expensive option is totally acceptable, and means fewer years spent needing to work, more financial freedom, lower financial stress, etc.
- RachelM71948937 2y ago[dead]