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The timing of this is neat! We are going on a trip in a week~ and need to get a bunch of packing done and stuff around the house prepped etc. 2 days ago I was

The timing of this is neat! We are going on a trip in a week~ and need to get a bunch of packing done and stuff around the house prepped etc. 2 days ago I was picking up a ring for my girlfriend and got a "fix it ticket" for something with my car. I have been really stressed because it adds a new thing with a timeline. The one day I was stressing about it and called it a side quest to myself and immediately the stress dipped. It'll get done and it'll be fine. It needed done anyway and ultimately now I've been given a side quest by a randomly encounter. It's not exciting but reframing it like this helps reduce my stress and allow me to think about the other stuff while still making sure this gets done. So good timing on this post!

lainga 2y ago
Do you think it's a matter of the task being framed as within vs. without your agency?
- chankstein38 2y ago
  I think that makes sense! Basically something that is forced on me vs something I have chosen to participate in. It could be argued whether it fits the latter but reframing can be pretty powerful! I think partially it's that I know that it's a temporary distraction and that's something I'm used to in quest-based games but ultimately I still manage to get the temporary small distractions done (and typically have more fun with those) while still making progress towards the larger quest/goal in this case.
readthenotes1 2y ago
I had a job once working with bad people and I morphed my day into the dndonline I was using to decompress with at night. Doing the feature work and adding bugs was like breaking barrels to find loot. Convincing a co-worker to stop creating more bugs was like taking down a minion. Working the politics to get rid of the most dangerous coworker was like killing the boss (he was a contractor and it seemed that everything he did was to damage our team's work)
- layer8 2y ago
  Suddenly I understand why D&D never quite grew on me. ;)
- chankstein38 2y ago
  I love that! (except the dangerous coworker haha) This trip we're going on is much needed and I'm feeling kind of burnt out I'm going to try this over the next week and see if it helps me maintain focus in the face of my upcoming PTO!
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lainga 2y ago

Do you think it's a matter of the task being framed as within vs. without your agency?

chankstein38 2y ago
I think that makes sense! Basically something that is forced on me vs something I have chosen to participate in. It could be argued whether it fits the latter but reframing can be pretty powerful! I think partially it's that I know that it's a temporary distraction and that's something I'm used to in quest-based games but ultimately I still manage to get the temporary small distractions done (and typically have more fun with those) while still making progress towards the larger quest/goal in this case.

readthenotes1 2y ago

I had a job once working with bad people and I morphed my day into the dndonline I was using to decompress with at night. Doing the feature work and adding bugs was like breaking barrels to find loot. Convincing a co-worker to stop creating more bugs was like taking down a minion. Working the politics to get rid of the most dangerous coworker was like killing the boss (he was a contractor and it seemed that everything he did was to damage our team's work)

layer8 2y ago
Suddenly I understand why D&D never quite grew on me. ;)
chankstein38 2y ago
I love that! (except the dangerous coworker haha) This trip we're going on is much needed and I'm feeling kind of burnt out I'm going to try this over the next week and see if it helps me maintain focus in the face of my upcoming PTO!
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