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Careful doing this as there's a risk of falling in love, as per this article: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/style/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-

Careful doing this as there's a risk of falling in love, as per this article: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/style/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/style/modern-love-to-fall...

latexr 2y ago
https://archive.ph/20240808081029/https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/style/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html https://archive.ph/20240808081029/https://www.nytimes.com/20...
- gloosx 2y ago
  thank you sire, I banished the authwall iframe, removed the gradient and made it scrollable only to realize the article was cut for public in the first place. I wonder how archive.ph got the full version automatically...
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  - latexr 2y ago
    > I banished the authwall iframe, removed the gradient and made it scrollable only to realize the article was cut for public in the first place. If your browser has a Reader Mode, that’s a faster way to get to that scenario, no DOM manipulation needed. > I wonder how archive.ph got the full version automatically We have speculation but not certainties. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36060891 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36060891 Regardless, the fact it works is why it’s so used on HN.
jimnotgym 2y ago
I think love has to be a state that can be worked towards. We wonder the earth (with apps) looking for that perfect person, today. But did noone fall in love in the past, when you had to make do with people from your own village?
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- 01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago
  In my case the Fear Of Missing Out is terrible. If I lived in a village of a few hundred people I could be satisfied that my spouse was the best match I could possibly hope for, right? Say half the village is men, then a quarter is too young or too old, then there's just a handful who fall in my range of economic status and attractiveness, and I could be as happy as one could hope with any of them. I live within reasonable driving distance of probably a literal thousand other people in my age range and of similar attractiveness to me. Whoever I stick with, someone else will be better in one way and worse in another. There might be a hundred dimensions on which to measure someone. Hence my current vacation from monogamy. I think love, as in the feeling of limerence, obsession, desire to be with someone, desire to "get" something from somebody attractive, is easy to cultivate and always has been. I love someone who said she "falls in love with anyone who makes eye contact with her long enough". Ironically, her definition of love doesn't include texting me every month. But love as in, doing hard marriage shit for decades until one of you outlives the other... I thought I felt that when I was first with my ex-spouse, now I believe I may be happier if I never feel that.
- satvikpendem 2y ago
  Different types of love. One is the honeymoon period style love after having met the person once or a few times, the other is the richer, deeper love between beings who know each other well for decades.
- GuB-42 2y ago
  It is much easier to fall in love with people you have spent a lot of time with. Same thing with friendship, and I guess rivalry too. The keyword is "propinquity". In a small village, it is natural, less so in a busy city where you meet with a lot of people, but don't really spend time with them.
7bit 2y ago
I skimmed the article, so maybe that's why I didn't get it. But isn't the headline misleading? They didn't fall in love and there is no indication that doing all of what they did would make someone fall in love - that otherwise wouldn't have in the first place, no?
- n4r9 2y ago
  Penultimate paragraph: > You’re probably wondering if he and I fell in love. Well, we did. Although it’s hard to credit the study entirely (it may have happened anyway), the study did give us a way into a relationship that feels deliberate. We spent weeks in the intimate space we created that night, waiting to see what it could become.

latexr 2y ago

https://archive.ph/20240808081029/https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/style/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html https://archive.ph/20240808081029/https://www.nytimes.com/20...

gloosx 2y ago
thank you sire, I banished the authwall iframe, removed the gradient and made it scrollable only to realize the article was cut for public in the first place. I wonder how archive.ph got the full version automatically...
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- latexr 2y ago
  > I banished the authwall iframe, removed the gradient and made it scrollable only to realize the article was cut for public in the first place. If your browser has a Reader Mode, that’s a faster way to get to that scenario, no DOM manipulation needed. > I wonder how archive.ph got the full version automatically We have speculation but not certainties. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36060891 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36060891 Regardless, the fact it works is why it’s so used on HN.

jimnotgym 2y ago

I think love has to be a state that can be worked towards. We wonder the earth (with apps) looking for that perfect person, today. But did noone fall in love in the past, when you had to make do with people from your own village?

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01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago
In my case the Fear Of Missing Out is terrible. If I lived in a village of a few hundred people I could be satisfied that my spouse was the best match I could possibly hope for, right? Say half the village is men, then a quarter is too young or too old, then there's just a handful who fall in my range of economic status and attractiveness, and I could be as happy as one could hope with any of them. I live within reasonable driving distance of probably a literal thousand other people in my age range and of similar attractiveness to me. Whoever I stick with, someone else will be better in one way and worse in another. There might be a hundred dimensions on which to measure someone. Hence my current vacation from monogamy. I think love, as in the feeling of limerence, obsession, desire to be with someone, desire to "get" something from somebody attractive, is easy to cultivate and always has been. I love someone who said she "falls in love with anyone who makes eye contact with her long enough". Ironically, her definition of love doesn't include texting me every month. But love as in, doing hard marriage shit for decades until one of you outlives the other... I thought I felt that when I was first with my ex-spouse, now I believe I may be happier if I never feel that.
satvikpendem 2y ago
Different types of love. One is the honeymoon period style love after having met the person once or a few times, the other is the richer, deeper love between beings who know each other well for decades.
GuB-42 2y ago
It is much easier to fall in love with people you have spent a lot of time with. Same thing with friendship, and I guess rivalry too. The keyword is "propinquity". In a small village, it is natural, less so in a busy city where you meet with a lot of people, but don't really spend time with them.

7bit 2y ago

I skimmed the article, so maybe that's why I didn't get it. But isn't the headline misleading? They didn't fall in love and there is no indication that doing all of what they did would make someone fall in love - that otherwise wouldn't have in the first place, no?

n4r9 2y ago
Penultimate paragraph: > You’re probably wondering if he and I fell in love. Well, we did. Although it’s hard to credit the study entirely (it may have happened anyway), the study did give us a way into a relationship that feels deliberate. We spent weeks in the intimate space we created that night, waiting to see what it could become.