It says “can”. It doesn’t say should, or advise on what’s best for the person at the “center” to do. In fact that’s the whole point: it is advice meant for peop

It says “can”. It doesn’t say should, or advise on what’s best for the person at the “center” to do. In fact that’s the whole point: it is advice meant for people who are, in their own analysis, not at the center of whatever trauma is being addressed.