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I don't think it's meant as literal rules. It's a rhetorical device. Basically everything in there has exceptions: sometimes the compassionate thing to do wou

by mlyle 2y ago

I don't think it's meant as literal rules. It's a rhetorical device. Basically everything in there has exceptions: sometimes the compassionate thing to do would be to give someone in an inner ring advice. Just, 9/10 out of times, advice offered is unhelpful and worsens things. Obviously it's not okay for the person in the middle to say "anything", either. But, it's a really worthwhile thing to consider. Is the person you're going to talk to closer to the trauma than you? If so, would what you're saying be better to say to someone further away, instead?

dsign 2y ago
> Just, 9/10 out of times, advice offered is unhelpful and worsens things. Indeed. But if I were in some acute treatment in USA, in the center ring, I probably feel an unrestrained urge to ask for financial advice. "Dear, can the kids be indented into slavery if I die without paying the bills? Yes? Because I signed that form? Oh...somebody should have given me some advice..."