> If you're correct that this isn't all about the person at the heart of the crisis, and in at least some sense you are, it's still not the place to litigate th

> If you're correct that this isn't all about the person at the heart of the crisis, and in at least some sense you are, it's still not the place to litigate that matter with that person. Yeah, but that is why the example is unfortunate. If you read very closely, you'll notice that I said that too and I suspect we're in furious agreement. The problem with that example is it confuses two important issues - the right thing for one person to say, and the best thing for the other person to think.