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I guess that is yet another thing people can have very different opinions on. Everything you just mentioned sounds absolutely horrific to me. I would never wan

I guess that is yet another thing people can have very different opinions on. Everything you just mentioned sounds absolutely horrific to me. I would never want my family and friends to do any of that to me, nor would I do it for them.

rpmisms 2y ago
Many of us are farmers. We see death plenty. Ignoring it or outsourcing it doesn't make it go away, and I don't believe it's healthy. Burying my friend was hard. It was sad. I had a constant reminder of my own fate in front of my eyes. It's a deeply human experience, and I think that everyone should go through it. The death I see in my normal life is much worse. I recently had to put a baby goat down. Can you imagine looking a baby goat who adores you in the eyes, then shooting it between those eyes? That shit hurts deep. tl;dr: it's life, don't run away from it.
- sherry-sherry 2y ago
  No one is running away from it. Please don't assume your experiences are wildly different from others without any basis for it. No one is ignoring, outsourcing, or running away from it — the end result is the same, a person has died and people are grieving. People grieve in different ways, how it's done is often tied to their communities and past practices. I would spend time with the deceased friends and family sharing our memories about them, often over multiple days together. To me, fiddling around with the body and concerning others about how it's going to be put into the ground seems disrespectful to me — but I understand that's what some people do and that's fine. P.S. you should put down goats by shooting slightly above the eyes, or to the poll.
  - rpmisms 2y ago
    Please don't take what I'm saying as an indictment of anyone. As a human race, we have outsourced death to those who are willing to deal with it, instead of being forced to come to terms with it. I'm saying that's bad. Of course people grieve in different ways, but closure helps massively with the process. > To me, fiddling around with the body... You would not like what they do in funeral homes, much less crematoriums. It's more body horror than peaceful laying to rest. > P.S. you should put down goats by shooting slightly above the eyes, or to the poll. I use 10mm (placement matters less, cavitation causes instant brain-pudding), and was also using a colloquialism.

rpmisms 2y ago

Many of us are farmers. We see death plenty. Ignoring it or outsourcing it doesn't make it go away, and I don't believe it's healthy. Burying my friend was hard. It was sad. I had a constant reminder of my own fate in front of my eyes. It's a deeply human experience, and I think that everyone should go through it. The death I see in my normal life is much worse. I recently had to put a baby goat down. Can you imagine looking a baby goat who adores you in the eyes, then shooting it between those eyes? That shit hurts deep. tl;dr: it's life, don't run away from it.

sherry-sherry 2y ago
No one is running away from it. Please don't assume your experiences are wildly different from others without any basis for it. No one is ignoring, outsourcing, or running away from it — the end result is the same, a person has died and people are grieving. People grieve in different ways, how it's done is often tied to their communities and past practices. I would spend time with the deceased friends and family sharing our memories about them, often over multiple days together. To me, fiddling around with the body and concerning others about how it's going to be put into the ground seems disrespectful to me — but I understand that's what some people do and that's fine. P.S. you should put down goats by shooting slightly above the eyes, or to the poll.
- rpmisms 2y ago
  Please don't take what I'm saying as an indictment of anyone. As a human race, we have outsourced death to those who are willing to deal with it, instead of being forced to come to terms with it. I'm saying that's bad. Of course people grieve in different ways, but closure helps massively with the process. > To me, fiddling around with the body... You would not like what they do in funeral homes, much less crematoriums. It's more body horror than peaceful laying to rest. > P.S. you should put down goats by shooting slightly above the eyes, or to the poll. I use 10mm (placement matters less, cavitation causes instant brain-pudding), and was also using a colloquialism.