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> Nobody thanked me. I don't buy this for a second. I thank everyone for even the most trivial of interactions and I'm certainly not alone (in the US) Buy a

> Nobody thanked me. I don't buy this for a second. I thank everyone for even the most trivial of interactions and I'm certainly not alone (in the US) Buy a Coke at 7-11 - "thank you!" Take package from UPS guy - "thank you!" Waiter takes order - "thank you!" Support rep puts me on hold to look up issue - "thank you!" Pretty much every retail/store interaction - "thank you!"

your_challenger 2y ago
People like you do exist. And it is a joy to serve you. When I said "nobody thanked me", I mean the management didn't. (edited for clarity)
- digging 2y ago
  This comes across as quite rude, FYI. You may want to clarify and be more specific.
  - your_challenger 2y ago
    Thank you. I hope I fixed it.
- josefresco 2y ago
  Thanks for the clarification - see there I go again!
neilv 2y ago
I couldn't figure that one out. Maybe he was speaking of management, franchise, and McD corporate? Or maybe it was a quirk of that store in NYC, or our own experiences are otherwise not representative? Or maybe he was writing more loosely, about a "thankless", poorly appreciated, poorly compensated, purely transactional job.
toomuchtodo 2y ago
My partner and I were normally polite when picking up ice cream from a local dairy a few weeks back. "No rush, take your time." Nothing overly fancy from a manners or politeness perspective. Was offered free ice cream for "being the nicest folks we've had in a long time." Didn't take the free ice cream of course, but thanked the folks working. I suspect overall impoliteness has seen a bit of an uptick, from my casual observation of the sociomacro (especially during airport and air transportation transit and use), and that gratitude is not expressed in casual interactions as perhaps it previously was. https://hbr.org/2022/11/frontline-work-when-everyone-is-angry https://hbr.org/2022/11/frontline-work-when-everyone-is-angr... ("Frontline Work When Everyone Is Angry") https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-28930-001 https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-28930-001 ("Catching rudeness is like catching a cold: The contagion effects of low-intensity negative behaviors.")
OJFord 2y ago
I find it so jarring when visiting - not so much thanking (I would say thanks/cheers in those situations in the UK too) but the way it's taken (or so it seems) with such sincerity or like it was a huge thing that really needed to be thanked. 'Thanks.' -- oh you're so welcome! It's completely arbitrary really, it's just really noticeable and, well, jarring when you're not used to it/used to different. I'm sure it's similar in reverse (I thanked him and he was so grumpy about it, didn't say a word! (Or he just said 'cheers' back, I didn't buy any alcohol?)).
agiacalone 2y ago
It's anecdotal, but my wife was a Disneyland cast member for ~5 years. She claims that the words 'thank you' were a rare occurrence to hear from guests...
- ForOldHack 2y ago
  Just wow. Wow.
brailsafe 2y ago
You may be in the U.S, but are clearly from Canada
- ForOldHack 2y ago
  I went to Canada for a birthday week. Great time. Interacted with a lot of people. Not a single scourging word. Not a one. Zero. I will never forget that.
  - brailsafe 2y ago
    What a beautiful thing to say. I'm happy you decided to come up for your birthday, and that you left with such a positive vibe <3
swader999 2y ago
I always say thankyou. Got three raw burgers at a restaurant this summer and just asked for them to be cooked. They gave us new ones, took an hour longer. Still tipped 20% and thanked them sincerely and said not to worry about it. The waiter got choked up. I'm not going to be an ass in front of my kids. I worked manual labour planting trees for ten seasons, know what it's like to struggle.
- ForOldHack 2y ago
  Never be an *ss in front of anyones kids. I always also say thank you, and to I'll add to p.o.c. "Have a blessed day." I got that from my friend answering machine. Thanks Solomon, I will. I dug ditches for just one season, and I can still feel it sometimes. The struggle is hard and it real.
  - kamaal 2y ago
    >>Never be an *ss in front of anyones kids. My personal principle always is to be polite with everybody. Like that's default mode of operation. No matter what you do with them. You might not buy from them, you might not hire from them, you might even want to keep distance from them. That should have no nothing to do with how you talk with them. Separate speaking from doing.

your_challenger 2y ago

People like you do exist. And it is a joy to serve you. When I said "nobody thanked me", I mean the management didn't. (edited for clarity)

digging 2y ago
This comes across as quite rude, FYI. You may want to clarify and be more specific.
- your_challenger 2y ago
  Thank you. I hope I fixed it.
josefresco 2y ago
Thanks for the clarification - see there I go again!

neilv 2y ago

I couldn't figure that one out. Maybe he was speaking of management, franchise, and McD corporate? Or maybe it was a quirk of that store in NYC, or our own experiences are otherwise not representative? Or maybe he was writing more loosely, about a "thankless", poorly appreciated, poorly compensated, purely transactional job.

toomuchtodo 2y ago

My partner and I were normally polite when picking up ice cream from a local dairy a few weeks back. "No rush, take your time." Nothing overly fancy from a manners or politeness perspective. Was offered free ice cream for "being the nicest folks we've had in a long time." Didn't take the free ice cream of course, but thanked the folks working. I suspect overall impoliteness has seen a bit of an uptick, from my casual observation of the sociomacro (especially during airport and air transportation transit and use), and that gratitude is not expressed in casual interactions as perhaps it previously was. https://hbr.org/2022/11/frontline-work-when-everyone-is-angry https://hbr.org/2022/11/frontline-work-when-everyone-is-angr... ("Frontline Work When Everyone Is Angry") https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-28930-001 https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-28930-001 ("Catching rudeness is like catching a cold: The contagion effects of low-intensity negative behaviors.")

OJFord 2y ago

I find it so jarring when visiting - not so much thanking (I would say thanks/cheers in those situations in the UK too) but the way it's taken (or so it seems) with such sincerity or like it was a huge thing that really needed to be thanked. 'Thanks.' -- oh you're so welcome! It's completely arbitrary really, it's just really noticeable and, well, jarring when you're not used to it/used to different. I'm sure it's similar in reverse (I thanked him and he was so grumpy about it, didn't say a word! (Or he just said 'cheers' back, I didn't buy any alcohol?)).

agiacalone 2y ago

It's anecdotal, but my wife was a Disneyland cast member for ~5 years. She claims that the words 'thank you' were a rare occurrence to hear from guests...

ForOldHack 2y ago
Just wow. Wow.

brailsafe 2y ago

You may be in the U.S, but are clearly from Canada

ForOldHack 2y ago
I went to Canada for a birthday week. Great time. Interacted with a lot of people. Not a single scourging word. Not a one. Zero. I will never forget that.
- brailsafe 2y ago
  What a beautiful thing to say. I'm happy you decided to come up for your birthday, and that you left with such a positive vibe <3

swader999 2y ago

I always say thankyou. Got three raw burgers at a restaurant this summer and just asked for them to be cooked. They gave us new ones, took an hour longer. Still tipped 20% and thanked them sincerely and said not to worry about it. The waiter got choked up. I'm not going to be an ass in front of my kids. I worked manual labour planting trees for ten seasons, know what it's like to struggle.

ForOldHack 2y ago
Never be an *ss in front of anyones kids. I always also say thank you, and to I'll add to p.o.c. "Have a blessed day." I got that from my friend answering machine. Thanks Solomon, I will. I dug ditches for just one season, and I can still feel it sometimes. The struggle is hard and it real.
- kamaal 2y ago
  >>Never be an *ss in front of anyones kids. My personal principle always is to be polite with everybody. Like that's default mode of operation. No matter what you do with them. You might not buy from them, you might not hire from them, you might even want to keep distance from them. That should have no nothing to do with how you talk with them. Separate speaking from doing.