I mean, it depends where you start at. I always say yes, and that has led me to overscheduling, so I'm learning to say no; but my default is still yes. For me,

I mean, it depends where you start at. I always say yes, and that has led me to overscheduling, so I'm learning to say no; but my default is still yes. For me, it takes effort and discretion to say no. It sounds like for OP, it is the opposite.