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I can’t relate to neither the article nor the comments here. I ask and follow people’s advice all the time, and people ask and follow my advice all the time.

by d--b 2y ago

I can’t relate to neither the article nor the comments here. I ask and follow people’s advice all the time, and people ask and follow my advice all the time. I need a new car? I’ll ask to the guy-I-know-who-knows-about-cars. My in-laws want a new computer? I’ll happily tell them about the pros and cons of computer x and y. At work, everyone asks everyone what they think is the best course of action. And somehow it happened to me a handful of times that a random friend of mine tells me that their successful career started because of some advice I gave them. It’s a very rewarding thing. Some people don’t take exactly your words, some people don’t follow anything, but god, don’t make it a generality…

cladopa 2y ago
I also had really great experience with advisers. For example, when I was young, I was tall and athletic but very bad with the women that I wanted to date, so I just looked for people that were good with women and started going out with them and asking advice. Probably the advice they gave was not that good because they were naturals at what they did and did not understood what they did well. But doing what they did and comparing it with what I did before was extremely useful and my life changed radically. I have repeated the process so many times in my life with different groups of people: If I wanted to sell well or make more money I went and hanged out with exceptional sellers and understood their thinking and then I started selling well as well. What happens with lots of people is they tend to despise or envy those that are better than them, specially in socialist countries where envy is celebrated and sometimes imposed as a philosophy of life(I have lived in socialist countries). If you envy the man that is better with women that you are, it will be impossible for you to learn anything from him. You will always find a way to justify that you are right and the System is wrong and unfair and the System should be corrected for them so they don't need to change anything.

by d--b 2y ago

cladopa 2y ago

I also had really great experience with advisers. For example, when I was young, I was tall and athletic but very bad with the women that I wanted to date, so I just looked for people that were good with women and started going out with them and asking advice. Probably the advice they gave was not that good because they were naturals at what they did and did not understood what they did well. But doing what they did and comparing it with what I did before was extremely useful and my life changed radically. I have repeated the process so many times in my life with different groups of people: If I wanted to sell well or make more money I went and hanged out with exceptional sellers and understood their thinking and then I started selling well as well. What happens with lots of people is they tend to despise or envy those that are better than them, specially in socialist countries where envy is celebrated and sometimes imposed as a philosophy of life(I have lived in socialist countries). If you envy the man that is better with women that you are, it will be impossible for you to learn anything from him. You will always find a way to justify that you are right and the System is wrong and unfair and the System should be corrected for them so they don't need to change anything.