The example in the article about climbing is “When in doubt, move your feet up.” For giving good advice, I’d say the answer is don’t give advice. It’s very r

The example in the article about climbing is “When in doubt, move your feet up.” For giving good advice, I’d say the answer is don’t give advice. It’s very rare to enjoy such a massive experience and information advantage that you can say “be the sword”, at just the right moment, to grant someone enlightenment. Good “advice” is work - you solve a problem. If you want to help, engage in problem solving. Which is miles better than giving good advice. Most people are able to solve their own problems. Heck - how many times have you sought advice only to be told something you already knew? Most of the time ? Generally, people need space/ time to think, resources, or to learn something about the world/ themselves. Even what I’m saying isn’t new to you. At most it’s formulated in a different order or style, but it’s not new. ——- If asked a question, a common response from me would be: “this is the answer based on what you said, but it seems it would be obvious/ I suspect you have considered it. Am I missing something ?” Typically the answer is “yes” and then I get better information. If the answer is no, then I check why something obvious was missed. —— NB : Problem solving means actually solving things, not throwing your hands up when someone doesn’t ‘follow your solution’. A workable solution - works. Good engineering considers the real world limits of the participants. Everyone wants to be healthier - it’s finding the motivation, time, type of exercise, and the rest that matter. And thats work. You may have to search, come up with ideas, or bring some relevant experience and memories to bear.