Finland and NYC are similar enough in that respect that I didn't really experience culture shock, but NYers do value tactful softening of unpleasant news much m

Finland and NYC are similar enough in that respect that I didn't really experience culture shock, but NYers do value tactful softening of unpleasant news much more than Finns do. In my first years here I had more than a few conversations where I was mildly scolded by friends and family for not being even more direct when I was being as NYer direct as I knew how to be. "Oh, you don't like it? Why didn't you say so??"