Related/similar: This post by Alice Maz https://www.alicemaz.com/writing/splain.html https://www.alicemaz.com/writing/splain.html describes two models of commun

Related/similar: This post by Alice Maz https://www.alicemaz.com/writing/splain.html https://www.alicemaz.com/writing/splain.html describes two models of communication: emphasizing information sharing and harmonious emotional experience respectively. There are two perspectives, of "offering information" as a gift, and of status games / social signaling, with greater prevalence among certain people/subcultures, though as you say the two are probably mixed in practice. > Even many replies I'd pegged as obvious, blatant misogyny turned out to have been people eagerly offering me gifts of information bewildered that I rudely rejected them. (It's interesting to consider the other way too.)