I had a lot of conciliatory thoughts on this and spent a lot of time trying to put words to them, but when I asked why I would want to enable someone who uses m

I had a lot of conciliatory thoughts on this and spent a lot of time trying to put words to them, but when I asked why I would want to enable someone who uses me as a man as the icon of their iconoclasm, I didn't have an answer. We're just not on the same team. Harrassment is an awful phenomenon, and preventing it is a matter of holding men to higher standards, and not lower ones. Setting boundaries demonstrates respect, and the effects of lacking boundaries are often the same as failing to respect them. Men who lack boundaries aren't very good, and women without them aren't very good either. Showing respect for others and oneself is the best way to demonstrate them. Does someone treat themselves with respect, and do they treat others with respect- and is it clear they know what that means? Those are the people on my team. It's a small minority, but historically, we prevail.