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All these "should be allowed" are basically "children are people, too. Let them have everything normal people do/have/experience/feel". This applies to all "chi

by troupo 2y ago

All these "should be allowed" are basically "children are people, too. Let them have everything normal people do/have/experience/feel". This applies to all "children should be allowed to play/go outside/be bored/be not bored/...." expert takes

switch007 2y ago
But the younger parents are of a generation who may not know that's normal and who have grown up glued to TVs, consoles and phones. They may need it spelled out
- krisoft 2y ago
  It is also not just electronic distractions. I have seen parents who are wealthy enough so they can afford to fill their kids life with a regiment of after school activities. Monday French tutoring, Tuesday/Thursday basketball practice, Wednesday math tutoring, Friday swimming and German tutoring, Saturday basketball game and piano, Sunday sailing. And of course homework crammed into every free time around these. Not much time around that to experience boredom ever. Naturally not everyone can afford this kind of pace so this is not a problem which involves everyone. But the insidous problem is that these parents are convinced that they are doing everything right for their kids. They are the most likely who can change course and incorporate such research.
watwut 2y ago
This is not about not allowing kids to be bored. This is about them wanting parents to create situations when kids are bored (by preventing their access to electronics specifically). As in, boredom nowdays requires additional work on the side of parents.
- theGnuMe 2y ago
  Dad, can I bring my iPad? Me: no Dad, my iPad is dead. Can I use your phone? Me: no And so forth. Not hard.
  - WA 2y ago
    My kid usually wants to know how I make decisions and never settles for a single "no" or "because I said so". I can tell them "because I want you to find some other stuff to play with", which might result in complaining for a while. Saying "not hard" is definitely not true in many cases. It's doable, but it's still hard.
    - theGnuMe 2y ago
      Whatever works for your family. The more you set the boundary though the better. I guess the ideal parenting method is to reinforce good choices and not reinforce bad ones. The best trained dogs are those trained only by positive reinforcement so…
  - dolmen 2y ago
    Dad, can I have an tablet/smartphone for birthday/Christmas? Me: no
  - watwut 2y ago
    Dad, can I go to visit my friend Johny? Me: yes. And there they are, watching movies with Johny in Johny house.
    - theGnuMe 2y ago
      Social movie watching or gaming is not bad imho.

by troupo 2y ago

switch007 2y ago

But the younger parents are of a generation who may not know that's normal and who have grown up glued to TVs, consoles and phones. They may need it spelled out

krisoft 2y ago
It is also not just electronic distractions. I have seen parents who are wealthy enough so they can afford to fill their kids life with a regiment of after school activities. Monday French tutoring, Tuesday/Thursday basketball practice, Wednesday math tutoring, Friday swimming and German tutoring, Saturday basketball game and piano, Sunday sailing. And of course homework crammed into every free time around these. Not much time around that to experience boredom ever. Naturally not everyone can afford this kind of pace so this is not a problem which involves everyone. But the insidous problem is that these parents are convinced that they are doing everything right for their kids. They are the most likely who can change course and incorporate such research.

watwut 2y ago

This is not about not allowing kids to be bored. This is about them wanting parents to create situations when kids are bored (by preventing their access to electronics specifically). As in, boredom nowdays requires additional work on the side of parents.

theGnuMe 2y ago
Dad, can I bring my iPad? Me: no Dad, my iPad is dead. Can I use your phone? Me: no And so forth. Not hard.
- WA 2y ago
  My kid usually wants to know how I make decisions and never settles for a single "no" or "because I said so". I can tell them "because I want you to find some other stuff to play with", which might result in complaining for a while. Saying "not hard" is definitely not true in many cases. It's doable, but it's still hard.
  - theGnuMe 2y ago
    Whatever works for your family. The more you set the boundary though the better. I guess the ideal parenting method is to reinforce good choices and not reinforce bad ones. The best trained dogs are those trained only by positive reinforcement so…
- dolmen 2y ago
  Dad, can I have an tablet/smartphone for birthday/Christmas? Me: no
- watwut 2y ago
  Dad, can I go to visit my friend Johny? Me: yes. And there they are, watching movies with Johny in Johny house.
  - theGnuMe 2y ago
    Social movie watching or gaming is not bad imho.