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Didnt realize people would get so heated about this. I firmly believe in my comment however I wish I could delete my comment because I didn't realize it was so

Didnt realize people would get so heated about this. I firmly believe in my comment however I wish I could delete my comment because I didn't realize it was so upsetting to people. Apologies!

Cupertino95014 2y ago
Never apologize, never explain. -- OR -- "It's a good rule in life never to apologize. The right kind of people never want apologies, and the wrong kind take advantage of them." a bit mangled. Full details: https://quoteinvestigator.com/2023/01/24/explain-friends/ https://quoteinvestigator.com/2023/01/24/explain-friends/
- solardev 2y ago
  What a strange belief. I wonder how well it works out for people who buy it.
  - Cupertino95014 2y ago
    https://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/careers/leadership-lab/never-apologize-never-explain-and-other-bad-ideas-for-working-with-millennials/article37522836/ https://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/careers/l... "Apologizing easily and quickly is what millennials want" Not gonna get it, though.
    - solardev 2y ago
      Sorry (heh). I think I'm out of the loop here... that article is paywalled, and I'm honestly not sure what it's referring to. Is there some broader anti-apology movement these days I'm just not aware of?
      - Cupertino95014 2y ago
        I'm sure I haven't paid for The Globe and Mail, so I'm a little puzzled. It's been observed that demanding an apology for everything is a weasel-y, performative, and Millennial thing, and the author is actually pushing back against that.
        solardev 2y ago
        Might be regional, or maybe you have an account? Not sure. (I'm in Oregon, but doubt they'd separately region-lock the Bay Area vs here...) Anyway, thanks for the summary. Archive.ph ended up fetching it successfully: https://archive.ph/wqLN8 https://archive.ph/wqLN8 I see what the author is saying now. I don't think I'd go to either extreme, either always apologizing or never. Explanations are always nice when they're not hollow excuses, but IMO apologies are better when they're reserved for the times you sincerely fuck up and feel bad. I'm an early Millennial, though, so maybe just less civilized than my younger brethren, lol.
solardev 2y ago
I don't necessarily agree with your original comment, but I don't think you have anything to apologize for either. You just stated an opinion and spurred a discussion. Our criminal justice system is usually just completely ignored by people. Having any awareness and discussion of it at all is an improvement, IMO.

Didnt realize people would get so heated about this. I firmly believe in my comment however I wish I could delete my comment because I didn't realize it was so upsetting to people. Apologies!

Cupertino95014 2y ago

Never apologize, never explain. -- OR -- "It's a good rule in life never to apologize. The right kind of people never want apologies, and the wrong kind take advantage of them." a bit mangled. Full details: https://quoteinvestigator.com/2023/01/24/explain-friends/ https://quoteinvestigator.com/2023/01/24/explain-friends/

solardev 2y ago
What a strange belief. I wonder how well it works out for people who buy it.
- Cupertino95014 2y ago
  https://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/careers/leadership-lab/never-apologize-never-explain-and-other-bad-ideas-for-working-with-millennials/article37522836/ https://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/careers/l... "Apologizing easily and quickly is what millennials want" Not gonna get it, though.
  - solardev 2y ago
    Sorry (heh). I think I'm out of the loop here... that article is paywalled, and I'm honestly not sure what it's referring to. Is there some broader anti-apology movement these days I'm just not aware of?
    - Cupertino95014 2y ago
      I'm sure I haven't paid for The Globe and Mail, so I'm a little puzzled. It's been observed that demanding an apology for everything is a weasel-y, performative, and Millennial thing, and the author is actually pushing back against that.
      - solardev 2y ago
        Might be regional, or maybe you have an account? Not sure. (I'm in Oregon, but doubt they'd separately region-lock the Bay Area vs here...) Anyway, thanks for the summary. Archive.ph ended up fetching it successfully: https://archive.ph/wqLN8 https://archive.ph/wqLN8 I see what the author is saying now. I don't think I'd go to either extreme, either always apologizing or never. Explanations are always nice when they're not hollow excuses, but IMO apologies are better when they're reserved for the times you sincerely fuck up and feel bad. I'm an early Millennial, though, so maybe just less civilized than my younger brethren, lol.

solardev 2y ago

I don't necessarily agree with your original comment, but I don't think you have anything to apologize for either. You just stated an opinion and spurred a discussion. Our criminal justice system is usually just completely ignored by people. Having any awareness and discussion of it at all is an improvement, IMO.