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Compare to the high needs care facilities in the Netherlands which make a fake shops, and a bus stop so that altzheimer suffering residents can be given a less

by ggm 2y ago

Compare to the high needs care facilities in the Netherlands which make a fake shops, and a bus stop so that altzheimer suffering residents can be given a less stressed managed environment, and if they try to "take the bus to go home" the fake bus stop manages sheparding them back. Running an actual shop, conducting work within her mothers competencies is really nice. It won't last forever buy it may help stave off depression and a decline for a bit.

defrost 2y ago
It's a working strategy for some, I moved in with my father some 12 years back after the death of my mother .. he's only now just showing signs of cognitive decline and I suspect working alongside him on various projects has kept him in the game (he'll be turning 90 in just under 12 months). I've enjoyed it, I'd not had much close contact since I was 16 or so and left for university and many years of travelling about.
- ggm 2y ago
  I'd say this is a "porque no los dos" moment. You're the second person I have heard of who made the choice to be come the primary carer for a parent like this and I applaud you for it: I have no doubt it sometimes caused stress, but it's by far the nicest of the least-bad choices if you both can handle it. The other guy it meant putting some life/career goals on-hold but I am very proud he went ahead with it. A very selfless thing to decide. Showed the best in people I think. As this does for you. Well done!
  - defrost 2y ago
    > who made the choice to be come the primary carer for a parent like this Heh. It's a looong way from that yet; I largely do what I've always done, save now I'm mostly based at my fathers house (well, the house that he built, that I recently bought and stuck in a trust for my grandson). I spend about ten hours a week plus|minus being a trade assistant to his projects: building bridges for walking tracks, restoring an old Toyato rodeo, converting an ex AU military truck to a five tonne water tank off road truck for the local fire crew, replacing water heaters, dropping trees at his church, puting up fences, being a co-driver fo vaious 500km+ road trips about the state. He enjoys the company and I catch the creeping errors in planning and forgetting to turn the oven off. I have, as a result, veered more into rural IT support (smart farm networks | drone footage storage & processing) and less geophysics .. but that's life, always new things. Thanks for the thumbs up though, appreciated.

by ggm 2y ago

defrost 2y ago

It's a working strategy for some, I moved in with my father some 12 years back after the death of my mother .. he's only now just showing signs of cognitive decline and I suspect working alongside him on various projects has kept him in the game (he'll be turning 90 in just under 12 months). I've enjoyed it, I'd not had much close contact since I was 16 or so and left for university and many years of travelling about.

ggm 2y ago
I'd say this is a "porque no los dos" moment. You're the second person I have heard of who made the choice to be come the primary carer for a parent like this and I applaud you for it: I have no doubt it sometimes caused stress, but it's by far the nicest of the least-bad choices if you both can handle it. The other guy it meant putting some life/career goals on-hold but I am very proud he went ahead with it. A very selfless thing to decide. Showed the best in people I think. As this does for you. Well done!
- defrost 2y ago
  > who made the choice to be come the primary carer for a parent like this Heh. It's a looong way from that yet; I largely do what I've always done, save now I'm mostly based at my fathers house (well, the house that he built, that I recently bought and stuck in a trust for my grandson). I spend about ten hours a week plus|minus being a trade assistant to his projects: building bridges for walking tracks, restoring an old Toyato rodeo, converting an ex AU military truck to a five tonne water tank off road truck for the local fire crew, replacing water heaters, dropping trees at his church, puting up fences, being a co-driver fo vaious 500km+ road trips about the state. He enjoys the company and I catch the creeping errors in planning and forgetting to turn the oven off. I have, as a result, veered more into rural IT support (smart farm networks | drone footage storage & processing) and less geophysics .. but that's life, always new things. Thanks for the thumbs up though, appreciated.