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Nope. Previous generation didn't care? Thats properly insulting to whole generation, maybe its your situation and I am sorry in such case, but please stop makin

by jajko 2y ago

Nope. Previous generation didn't care? Thats properly insulting to whole generation, maybe its your situation and I am sorry in such case, but please stop making such wrong accusations. Death was around, from time to time some kid would die - hit by car, fell down something, got sick etc. If anything parents were more resistant to suffering, just sucked it up and moved, they didn't have this 'every life is precious' attitude. They also didn't know that well to talk about their emotions or even process them effectively, so just bottled them up and continued. Its up to each of us to create for our kids environments we want them to raise in. You are a control freak or helicopter parent? Well there will be consequences. You run in cca full trust mode with your kids and just manage things like healthy food, tons of physical activities, a lot of time spent in wild nature and let them figure the rest? They can have it too, but some trust into them not killing themselves is required. You don't like the place you live in? Change it if you can or leave it otherwise, world is big and plenty of good places to spend rest of your life in.

imdsm 2y ago
Apologies if it upset you, not my intention, but the prevailing feeling (in the UK at least, and these are UK HN hours) is that Gen X were quite absent parents for the most part. They weren't as strict as TGG or Boomers, but weren't as switched on and present as Millennials. > they didn't have this 'every life is precious' attitude > Previous generation didn't care Allow me to make one small change then - Previous generation didn't care + Previous generation didn't care as much
lupusreal 2y ago
> They also didn't know that well to talk about their emotions or even process them effectively, so just bottled them up and continued. If that method of handling their emotions made them more resilient to hardship, then maybe it was the correct way after all.
- jajko 2y ago
  The problems you don't even acknowledge are there won't ever be resolved nor addressed. Sure, you can keep ignoring them, but as life goes on the pile of stuff just sitting there that you constantly have to keep looking away from grows significantly. Not life I want to live, nor a parent I want to be.
  - lupusreal 2y ago
    If somebody's kid dies from polio or whatever, there's no solving that by talking about feelings. Scientists and doctors can make sure it doesn't happen again but we're talking about the way parents reacted, or didn't react, to trauma. If in fact they generally didn't talk about it and just soldiered on, that was an effective method of dealing with it. Better than spending years in therapy crying about it, as seems to be fashionable these days, which won't bring their kid back. And particularly, moving on without dwelling on the past seems better for the surviving children than the parents becoming overprotective (the thesis of this discussion, if I've understood it.)

by jajko 2y ago

imdsm 2y ago

Apologies if it upset you, not my intention, but the prevailing feeling (in the UK at least, and these are UK HN hours) is that Gen X were quite absent parents for the most part. They weren't as strict as TGG or Boomers, but weren't as switched on and present as Millennials. > they didn't have this 'every life is precious' attitude > Previous generation didn't care Allow me to make one small change then - Previous generation didn't care + Previous generation didn't care as much

lupusreal 2y ago

> They also didn't know that well to talk about their emotions or even process them effectively, so just bottled them up and continued. If that method of handling their emotions made them more resilient to hardship, then maybe it was the correct way after all.

jajko 2y ago
The problems you don't even acknowledge are there won't ever be resolved nor addressed. Sure, you can keep ignoring them, but as life goes on the pile of stuff just sitting there that you constantly have to keep looking away from grows significantly. Not life I want to live, nor a parent I want to be.
- lupusreal 2y ago
  If somebody's kid dies from polio or whatever, there's no solving that by talking about feelings. Scientists and doctors can make sure it doesn't happen again but we're talking about the way parents reacted, or didn't react, to trauma. If in fact they generally didn't talk about it and just soldiered on, that was an effective method of dealing with it. Better than spending years in therapy crying about it, as seems to be fashionable these days, which won't bring their kid back. And particularly, moving on without dwelling on the past seems better for the surviving children than the parents becoming overprotective (the thesis of this discussion, if I've understood it.)