Here's a trick. HR people know this backwards and forwards, it's their job. DO NOT go to the HR in your own company, instead try to find someone at a differen

Here's a trick. HR people know this backwards and forwards, it's their job. DO NOT go to the HR in your own company, instead try to find someone at a different company. A friend of a friend, someone you know from church or anywhere else. Buying them lunch is good because it gives you plenty of time to talk over the issues. As a bonus it's also a backdoor job interview at the same time. But to steal a line from the Mel Gibson movie where he had blue paint on his face: "The Lord tells me he can get me out of this mess, but he's pretty sure you're foocked."