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Too often we assess our own worth by comparing our talents with our 'peers'; but that group can vary by quite a bit. If we are surrounded by people with less ta
by didgetmaster 2y ago
Too often we assess our own worth by comparing our talents with our 'peers'; but that group can vary by quite a bit. If we are surrounded by people with less talent than ourselves we feel an inflated sense of worth. If we are in the midst of people who are more talented, we feel inferior.
This applies to sports, academics, professions, and other areas as well. For example, I am a decent golfer (can regularly break 80) and if I play a round with golfers who struggle to beak 100, then I feel really good. If I play with scratch golfers, I wonder why I am so horrible.
- al_borland 2y agoWhen I need to go shopping, I can either drive west to the nice part of town, or east to the more working class part of town. I go east 95% of the time for this reason. When I drive east I’m around unimpressive cars and normal people, so I think I’m doing ok. If I drive west, I see expensive cars and fancy people that make me question if I’m doing well enough or if I should get a nicer cars/clothes/etc. Statistically, those cars and clothes are probably indicators of extreme debt, and these people are living paycheck to paycheck, just on bigger paychecks than people on the east side of town. I could have similar cars/clothes/homes, but choose not to. Surrounding myself with people who don’t have me thinking about the Jones’ is one way I help avoid those thoughts that I’m not enough or don’t have enough.