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My ex and I used to do this. Every month we'd plan out the next few months from dates/appointments, incorporating things we had to do, and things we wanted to d
by tetris11 2y ago
My ex and I used to do this. Every month we'd plan out the next few months from dates/appointments, incorporating things we had to do, and things we wanted to do.
And every month, we'd sift through the previous month, bump ahead tasks that were missed, discuss tasks that had been bumped repeatedly, and - most importantly - reflect on the last month's achievements together.
As an aside, we would also every year make a printed photo album, sifting through all the photos we'd made that year.
It was sometimes tough and gruelling work, but it really brought us together, and my eyes are wet just thinking of how we really grew together.
- MezzoDelCammin 2y agonot to pry into Your privacy too much, but reading this kinda makes me wonder how come You're now exes. Without it the comment reads lie a piece of evidence for this iterative approach working out fairly well.
- tetris11 2y agoI wonder too sometimes, there was a strong love between us. I thought that would be enough, but somehow it wasn't for me. Reading the article really helped highlight some failings: >The type of person I’m assuming we’re looking for here is 1) someone that you will find fascinating to talk to after you’ve talked for 20,000 hours, 2) you feel comfortable with them talking through the hardest and most painful decisions you will face in your life, and 3) the conversation is wildly generative for both of you, in that it brings you out, helps you become. With my Ex, we were great at (2), but (1) and (3) were lacking and we'd resort to friends and colleagues to get that feedback.