fwiw, I actually agree with you re: non-binary for your 2nd point - I don't think it's about _sexist_ stereotypes, but it Is about communicating yourself to so

fwiw, I actually agree with you re: non-binary for your 2nd point - I don't think it's about _sexist_ stereotypes, but it Is about communicating yourself to society, which has certain ideas. For something less charged than gender, say you call yourself a "hippie" or a "conservative" or a "goth" or a "hacker" or anything else. This immediately evokes associations with other people (stereotypes) that are - to some degree but not completely - correct which is why you chose to use that word to describe yourself. This is just how communicating _any_ identity works, I don't think gender is inherently different in any way other than society cares about it a lot more. & For your last point: I really think you're super hung up on this spaces thing. None of my trans friends says this is why they did it. They just want to feel comfortable. I clarified in my last post why I think that this is the wrong take, but honestly, if you're OK with using people's preferred pronouns, don't want to ban HRT, etc., I'm OK agreeing to disagree on this